OH BABY
Why is it that people think it is alright to ask young couples “when are you going to start a family?”
If the reason is that one of them is infertile or they are having some problems getting pregnant, then it can cause a lot of heartache. If the couple has been trying to start a family, without success, they really do not need to be reminded of their inability to reproduce.
What business is it of anyone else why they do not have little ones tugging at their skirts?
Many young people just do not feel ready to start a family within months of getting married. Some couples just can not afford to do so as money is tight and the budget is stretched to it’s limit to afford housing, even with both of them working.
Maybe they feel that the state of the world is in such a mess that they honestly do not feel they want to bring a child into being, or maybe they just do not want to be parents.
Surprisingly, to many people, not everyone feels the need of sleepless nights or the strain of a new life to take care of. Maybe they just want to explore life together and get to know one another before making any decisions about sharing their life with an infant.
If the couple do decide to start a family, why do perfect strangers think it OK to touch the “bump”? To walk up to anyone and start fondling them is very inappropriate, whether they are pregnant of not, but for some reason, some people think this is perfectly acceptable behaviour.
As each of our daughters told us they were pregnant, my first question was “are you happy about this”, if they were then I would rejoice with them. If babies did not come along soon, I never mentioned it. Why put extra strain on someone else’s problem? All of our daughters seemed as fertile as their mother, so babies came close together.
When each baby came it was a joyous occasion and altogether we have nine healthy grandchildren also one great grandson, with his brother on the way. Babies are a wonderful addition to any family but not if the parents to be are not ready to take this big step.
Remember this if you feel the need to know when, or even if, babies are in the future for newly or not so newly weds. It is not your business, so do not ask.