Esteem
To hold someone in high esteem is to respect and admire them, to prize them, acclaim and appreciate them. It is an honour to be esteemed by another person. Esteem goes beyond just liking and one does not receive esteem for trivial or occasional behaviour. It is a result of consistently admirable action, as from someone that might be one of high values demonstrated throughout their life. Big
Self esteem is a combination of confidence in the functioning of my mind (self efficacy) and assurance of my value, my right to live and contribute (self respect). If I have self esteem I trust in my intrinsic worth and ability. One who has self esteem can be brave and try new things, explore new territory and enter into a challenge with some feeling that they can actually overcome it
How can I esteem you? First of all, I can’t fake that. You will know, regardless of what I say and do, regardless of how well I fake it. My spidey sense, will know. On that line when someone does esteem you, the tendency is to not believe it, and discount it, because true esteem of another is just not that common. It is an expression of a kind of love. Pay attention, you may have people around who esteem you
Esteem from others can be fragile. Sometimes that can be because an assumption of deserved esteem is proven to be in error. Sometimes it is because I made up the rules for my esteem of you and you, unknowingly, broke one or more of those rules. One terrorist may esteem a terrorist colleague until, one day, the colleague refuses to kill others. Esteem gone, because the colleague didn’t agree with that particular terrorist value
Seems to me that the best thing we could ever do is to esteem each other. That way, we set expectations that we will find ways to esteem each other and I will love to be around you and you around me. Like when I, as a grandparent, esteem my grandchildren. They seem to almost glow. And yes, they seem to esteem me. I naturally want to continue to earn that esteem so behave accordingly and vice versa. Esteem each other